November 15, 2018, 9:42 pm
A few months ago, I collected several confessions from both local and foreign women about what they thought about the suave Latino men of Colombia. To be honest, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. But today, I want to get a bit more personal. I want to tell you what I think it’s like. I want to share not only my point of view, but also what I observe in my surroundings. If you’re dating a Colombian, you’re in for a roller coaster ride of emotions. Want to know exactly what you’re in for? Read on.
As always, these are generalizations, not all Colombians are the same. Obvio!
The art of seduction
Back in the US and Europe, I shamelessly made the first move. I always picked my guy. If I knew what I wanted, I would bluntly go after him. But Colombia is still a very traditional country. Girls flirt with their eyes from afar and it’s up to the guy to make the first move.
Honestly, I didn’t pick up my Colombian this way. He was amused at how direct and straightforward I was. But Colombians give foreigners more leeway. If a Colombian woman would do the same, she might come off as a fresca, know what I mean?
Oh, the many times I’ve talked to a Colombian girl that has her eyes set on someone yet doesn’t take initiative to go and talk to the guy! She can’t get herself to make the first move, because that’s his job. It’s an old school, machista way of thinking, but what can you do about it?
Make yourself be desired
Once you’ve established there’s a mutual connection, let the games begin. If that’s not your thing, too bad! There’s a waiting period, who calls who, how long should you wait to call/message back, a lot of flirting, going out on dates, denying you’re anything more than friends, tralalalala.
What for? Colombian guys like the chase and want to run after a woman. Maybe it makes them think she’s selective with her choice of men? A woman without a chase is no fun to most Colombian men!
Chivalry is not dead in Colombia
A Colombian guy will propose the date, pay for it, and take you home. Old school. It makes them feel manly and in charge. Essentially, it also lets you know what kind of expectations they have of a woman. A stay at home, trophy wife? If that’s your thing, there you go! But if being a mantenida is not your cup of tea, set the record straight from the beginning and let him know you’ll pick up the tab next time!
Like everything else about dating a Colombian, there are these absurd expectations about what a woman is supposed to look like. I mean, if he’s paying and taking charge, what did you think he was paying for? Not your personality, girlfriend!
As a result of these unrealistic standards, Colombia has become a top destination with some of the most renowned plastic surgeons in the world. It’s normal for high school girls to get nose jobs. Not getting a nose job if yours doesn’t look like Barbie's gets other colombianas like “why didn’t you do it?”
After having been in Colombia for over 3 years now, I can spot a fake booty from a mile off. And let me tell you: they’re everywhere!
Colombian guys expect their women to always be done up, dressed up, plucked, shaved and trimmed. Are you serious? Unless you’re a traditional colombiana, who can keep up with that?
You’re dating your Colombian guy AND his family. You don’t have to be in a super serious relationship for him to present you to his family. Understand that if you are dating him, you will also be dating his family if they live in the same city. You’ll probably have more encounters with your future mother-in-law than your own.
Dating a Colombian guy is an intense cultural and emotional ride. You might not experience all of these but will experience one or the other to some degree.
If you've already met your Colombian sweetheart or have one from another country, don't miss the chance to hit some romantic Colombian destinations with them. Take a tour of the beautiful coffee region or make your way through Cartagena's walled city hand-in-hand.
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